of vice and men

I finally watched Twilight with my guy friends. This is my favorite scene. The acting is horrible— I was so close to stop watching it in the first 20 minutes. Thank god I didn’t, but Edward Cullen is hot hot hot.

I seem to always go for the bad guys.

Do opposites attract? Over sangria and way too many drinks my friends and I got into a heated discussion about this. It was, however, Nick who brought up The O.C.’s Seth and Summer for his argument. Now, I used to debate in high school LOVE ADAM BRODY so this was well taken.

In high school, I was obsessed with Seth and Summer and thought that their dynamic was amazing. Seth’s the sarcastic dork; Summer’s the popular beauty. They keep each other on their toes and well, somehow make it work. Our discussion led to whether couples are more compatible if they clash a little more versus if they share the same exact interests and personality?

I used to only like and date guys who had the same personality to my guy friends. You know… the gorgeous a little cocky asshole. Maybe it’s because it was what I was used to… and we tend to stick to the familiar? However, in my sophomore year at Lehigh I had the biggest crush on a guy who thought I was hot, but… partied way too much. (Or so my friends said.) Sure, I was a wild child, but I was only having fun.

He was really shy and a completely different person I usually went for. One of my friends actually said that he was ugly and I could “do better.” But, I don’t know. I liked him. It was probably because I would only see him at frat parties and well, I was usually trashed, so who knows. But, suffice to say, we never went out or anything like that.

But, I think it was the mystery of it all. I couldn’t figure him out and well, maybe it was just that.

So 20 years and I’ve managed to date the same person- cocky douche bags. One of my friends asked me why I didn’t date this other guy that I’ve been recently seeing and I simply replied, “We’re too different.” And she said, “that might not be a bad thing.”

People break up for a reason. If it was perfect and there were no problems, then you wouldn’t break up. You know?

Maybe there is a lesson in this for me.

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